In April 2012, when the idol was 19 years old, she signed a contract with the company so she would become a member of an idol group.
The contract contained a clause which forbade the woman from dating any male fans, or risk getting sued for damages.
We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.
We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!
Like most women our age, we were career-minded with our own apartments, but we also wanted to get married.
The no-dating policy is perhaps one of the main reasons idols tend to graduate before they reach their 30s.We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.We put two and two together, and wrote and wrote, and that’s how The Rules were born!We had no idea The Rules would become a bestseller…we just wanted to help women stop making mistakes and get the men of their dreams—and that’s what we still do now, 20 years later!